My Nappy Hair Journey

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Hurrah! I am officially a blogger!! Took me long enough. I’ve been wanting to start a nappy hair blog for so long and I am ecstatic its finally here! I have long time discovered, also from personal experience that in Africa a serious need for knowledge and information on the part of our body that generally defines us in many way than one, HAIR!!!!

Welcome beautiful souls to Nappyese.com! I’m glad you’re here to experience with me my journey through life as a nappy haired fashion model. I hope to inspire and enlighten you on all things related to beautiful naturally textured hair and of course lots of other fun shenanigans! We are going to have an awesome time!!!!!! You probably have guessed by now that Nappy is my w♥rd for Natural™  I looooooovveee to be NAPPY!


Why I decided to go natural…

Back in 2013 I was head over heels for a guy who was obsessed with his idea of what real ‘African beauty is’ cue eye roll, every sensible man out there knows a womans beauty is whatever the hell she chooses it to be {pun intended}. He wanted me to ‘return’ natural and of course as a young girl foolishly in love all I wanted was to please him.

One look in the mirror at my left profile; damaged hairline from that one time I had beautiful Senegalese twist in varsity. I also had so much breakage from dying my hair jet black for 3 years in senior high.  Maybe it wasn’t such a bad idea to start afresh. I’ve had relaxers in my hair for more than 12 years and I had absolutely no idea how to deal with my nappy hair. Flashback to being six and the Saturday afternoon ritual, head bent between Iya Mutai’s thighs, crying for mercy as her tiny toothed tail comb rips off my scalp to get my kinks into cornrows for school on Monday. Oh the agony! Yup, it’s the kind of pain you never EVER! forget.

TBT to combing Nappy Hair



If  I was going to do this I needed some sort of inspiration and direction. Thank heavens for Pintrest! I looked up natural hair and beautiful images of dark-skinned women like me with long nappy hair popped up. I became a woman obsessed. How is this possible?! As far as I knew, black hair didn’t grow and it’s so hard and difficult to deal with. All I knew was if they could grow hair like that, there’s no reason why I couldn’t, so I spent the first 3 months stalking every beautiful woman with beautiful long nappy hair. I followed them on Instagram, visited their blogs, watched their vlogs and hair tutorials. It was a whole new world. A world of pre-pooing, deep conditioning, satin scarves, co-washing, bagging, lol.. The list is really endless, No really it is!


“What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger”

Every nappy haired folk you come across will tell you that the journey to re-discovering, learning to love and understand one of the most complex fiber structure that is our hair is never an easy one. For me as a fashion model, I feel it has been even a bit harder, because my job entails looking a certain way most of the time, and then morphing into any kind of avatar the client wants you to be for their idea. But looking back, returning natural is a decision I will take time again. There is nothing like loving and embracing yourself the way that you have been made with all the bag and baggage that comes with being YOU! It is a such a powerful feeling.

Watch my video below to see my journey from tattered tresses to healthy looking beautiful kinks. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and leave a comment! Would love to hear your thoughts.


Black Hair Grows!

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Love and Nappiness


  • Zoe
    July 3, 2016

    I love your Blog!!!

  • Lebo
    July 3, 2016

    I love your video! Well sone in your journey! Cant wait to see more posts!

  • Khanya
    July 5, 2016

    I can’t wait to go o’natural. I believe it’s going to be a beautiful and exciting journey, your story is empowering. Thank you for sharing!

  • Julia Otobo
    July 13, 2016

    Love to you Khanya!

  • Zahzah
    July 13, 2016

    Love your blog especially the video and the book thanks

  • Julia Otobo
    July 15, 2016

    Thank you Zahzah! enjoy 🙂

  • Julia Otobo
    July 15, 2016

    Thanks girl! post coming every second wednesday!

  • […] Yasss! Look at that growth! This is actually my first comparison photo. My focus is more on the health and getting to know and understand my hair because I know once I master these, length is a given! And boy am I on the right track. It didn’t take more than my second ‘Big Chop’ to teach me this lesson (see my Natural Hair Journey here). […]

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