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A Rainy Summer in Femme Luxe

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Lagos living is Lit! And guess what made even lit-ter. Oops! Pardon the puns…

Waking up one beautiful day to Femme Luxe’s email was something of a nice surprise from the Universe. Although, I have collaborated with brands more than a few times on sponsored posts, tbh this one came out of the blues. You’d be surprised I actually ignored the mail for about a week because I didn’t think it would work due to the fact I lived in Lagos, but then they sent me another one mail reminder and I gave it a shot.

ALTÉ FEELINGS: Ahem! Before we get into that, It's been a while since I've shared a style story so I Feel I need to revamp our conversation theme.

When I started writing and doing blog posts, I took great pride in it. I enjoyed it a lot, along the line I really got quick and direct to the point because I got confused with numbers, so shorter post meant more time to write and share yes ??  NEWSLETTERS, HAIR, SKIN, TRAVEL AND FITNESS, YOUTUBE AND INSTAGRAM CONTENT Whew! Photo and video content! It got pretty overwhelming after a while

Long story short Femme Luxe arrived at my local post office and I went to pick it up not believing my luck. Certainly, I was skeptical on the chances of it arriving but here in Lagos. Luckily my cousin asked me to give it a shot. I’m glowing from ear to ear as I write this because it mean Nigeria actually works. So proud.

http://femmeluxefinery.co.uk/

SNAKE PRINT LOUNGE WEAR CO ORDS

 

Snake Short Sleeve Boxy Loungewear Set – Lacy

SNAKE SKIN IS IN!!!

A few weeks back, can you imagine me almost buying an over priced snake patterned leggings a few weeks ago, thank God I didn’t because now look at God. I look everywhere and I see snake print. Have you noticed too? Move over cat family, the reptiles are here. I paired this comfy set with my snake skin boots, for that head to toe rockperfect for rainy weather or warm evening. The material used to make this wear is nice and stretchy and comfortable on the skin.

 

 

Pink Satin Cowl Neck Bodycon Midi Dress – Clarence

Pink Satin Cowl Neck Bodycon Midi Dress – Clarence

The day I picked up the package, I got invited to a bachelors party. And I wore this sexy number. Trust me when I say, this dress is a show killer and stopper and leave it there. It’s perfect for a night, making you feel sexy and classy a the same time. It’s made with Great Quality material, even thoughts tight, I’m not afraid its going to rip apart at any sudden moment. I paired it with my head wrap for that African regal pink action. Wotcyu say boo? Are ya feeling this look?

SIZE: 8-10

 

ALTÉ THOUGHTS: NEW NAPPYESE HEADWRAP COLLECTION COMING SOON

https://femmeluxefinery.co.uk/collections/ribbed-loungewear-sets

FEMME LUXXE LOUNGE WEAR X NAPPYESE HEADWRAP #NAPPYWRAP

Black Slinky Front Tie Two Piece Set – Kia

Can you tell a pattern here with my style?

>>>>>>>>>>>> I’m all for the two piece sets. I like how easy and soft this outfit is. Even though the size 8 I ordered didn’t really fit my tall torso and legs, I am definitely loving the front tie cut and the flared pants. Now who wants a giveaway?? Yup! You heard right boo. I’m giving away this lucky number to one very lucky boo of mine. Could that be you?? 

Follow my @nappyese on Instagram and turn on my post for notifications because I will be giving away this gorge set! All giveaway details will be on the nappygram!

 

PS: No heels were ruined in the making of this shoot 

Camel Crop Jumper Loungewear Set – Deanna

Earth tones are my thing and its obvious its Femme luxe’s thing too yaaay! I fell in love with this Jumper sweat the minute I saw it. I love the way it bares my décolletage. Don’t you?

Also very comfy and semi-loose fitting. Not tight or constructing at all.

 

Would you shop with Femme Luxe? What do you like about each of these outfits? I think my favorite thing about the lunge wear set is that it is perfect to keep warm during the wet rainy season of Lagos Nigeria.

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-Model: @juliaeseotobo

-Photgrahper: @ekenenwonye

 

ALTÉ THOUGHTS: Shout out to my amazing friend and photographer Ekene aka Nappybo$$ Ekene, who took some time to help make the dream work and welcome to the team. Let's see what he thinks about the outfits. Ekene leave a comment below on your opinion and let the world know how much fun this was.

Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed this post, please also enjoy this links. More style post on Femme Luxxe to come soon. Please leave and questions or comments below

PS: If you're new here or just in case you haven't got the gist is far, this is a sponsored post because I go to keep these amazing outfits. Even though it is sponsored, they totally fit my style. Comfort and Elegance, and I add my culture with my nappywrap!

 

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#HAIRSPIRATION OF THE MONTH; Gabriella Bernard

By Posted on 1 10 m read 528 views

 

 

My documentary ‘Black Hair’ speaks about growing up as a predominantly African woman in a whitewashed and Eurocentric Caribbean society. I address racism, hair-shaming, and overcoming adversity by cutting off my hair in this 20-minute film.

 

 

* First your first and last name and location.

My name is Gabriella Bernard and I live in Trinidad & Tobago, located in the Caribbean.

 

* Can you walk us through what was going through your head when that incident happened? What were you thinking and feeling as they were doing the hair and as you were asking them to consider alternatives?

At first, I was very determined to go home because my hair meant the most to me, and I told the producers that upfront on my application form. It took me about 30 minutes of crying and thinking to finally get to the decision that I made. I felt the need to expressly state my opinion and stand up for myself because truly I believe in promoting natural beauty and there were alternate methods that could have been taken to get my hair straight (wig, weave, blowout, keratin, flat iron). Furthermore, it is a Caribbean show and it is sending a message that we should conform to Eurocentric standards, as perpetuated by every other TV show, movie, magazine cover or whatever it may be, that tells young black women, and the world for that matter, that black people with kinky curly hair are not as good as unblemished porcelain white skin with perfectly straight blonde hair. That the beauty standard is something that we as ‘unfavorable’ black people could never achieve in this lifetime, lest we use cake soap and chemical relaxers. And then EVEN THEN when we conform, we will never be ‘truly’ as beautiful as what we have been brainwashed to believe is the standard. Especially in the context of Jamaica, where the film was produced, where it has been reported time and time again that skin bleaching is a common trend, what sort of message are you perpetuating as an industry leader? It broke my heart and shattered everything I knew when I realized someone who I had looked up to so much would do something as mentally damaging as chemically relaxing my natural hair that I had taken 3 years to grow. The decision stood even after I had told them I had it straight for most of my life and when I decided to go natural I loved myself more for embracing who I am as God intended… I had 2 options: conform and see what success I could achieve, possibly winning a contract to be an international model, something that I have always dreamed and prayed for, or break away and see how this may have been detrimental to my career. I had already left my job, I always looked up to Wendy, modeling was everything for me, and I came to compete… I had to go all the way or forever ask myself ‘what if?’ Though I mentally made the decision, I spent about 10 minutes disassociated from the world, mentally disconnecting myself from my hair and what I was about to do. My hair has always been a part of my identity, and as women, we know all too well how much emotion we have attached to our hair. My hair has always been part of my identity. I had my pretty little girl phase, then I shaved half of it off, I grew it back out and processed it straight. When I decided I was finally going to go natural I went out with a bang by dying my hair blue, purple and blond. I knew it would get damaged but it would be able to grow out. I’ve always expressed myself through my hair, and now they were going to take away something that I had groomed for so long, which was more to me than ‘just hair’, take it all away in a second. And chemical relaxers are permanent, I’m not sure if everyone understands that part, but it’s not something that can be reversed and I had to cut off all my hair after the show because it was now permanently straight and damaged…

The feeling of being stripped of my personality, my uniqueness, like Sampson without his hair…

* When you looked at yourself in the mirror after it happened, what were you feeling?

When I looked in the mirror, I saw the 16-year old version of myself watching me back in disappointment. I had lived most of my conscious life with straight hair and at 16 I wished I had the guts to go natural. I hoped that it would all be worth it in the end… but we all know I came 3rd. My reaction, however, was pure acting. I knew that I couldn’t be the girl who kicked up a fuss in the salon AND sulked over her makeover that she didn’t want to do in the first place. I told myself to let go of my emotions until after the show, and I gave it my best – my all, to try and win the competition. I was determined and I sacrificed a lot, DOWN TO MY HAIR, for a CHANCE to win, and came out deeply disappointed. If I knew then what I know now, I would have definitely walked off, or not have signed up at all. But at that moment, I was too close to my dreams to let it slip through my fingers.

 

* Is your hair still affected by the treatment they used?

My hair is somewhat affected – some parts haven’t grown into their curls just yet and are straighter than other parts. This is also attributed to previous years of chemical relaxing and I noticed that from the first time I cut my hair.

 

* What’s been your response to the continued interest at this moment on social media? Were you surprised by the support and reactions?

I was genuinely surprised by the reaction and support received from 95% of people on social media. I didn’t think that people would get it and I feared that it would be perceived negatively and seen as unimportant because I was dismissed so casually in real life, but people went through the same emotions as I did on the set, it seems! So many people were touched and started to reach out to me from other parts of the Caribbean, the US, the UK, Australia, and various countries across Africa and Asia. They shared their stories with me and I am so glad that we are having a global conversation about the reevaluation of the beauty standard. Beauty comes in all shades, shapes, sizes, and cannot be contained by 1 set of standards alone. More and more people are finally loving themselves for who they are and being comfortable in their own skin. I don’t understand why anyone would be against that, but I am so appreciative for those who understand the overarching message and are supporting my efforts. I hope that they too are living their most authentic version of themselves and creating change in their own lives and communities.

 

 

More and more people are finally loving themselves for who they are and being comfortable in their own skin

 

* What about that moment ultimately inspired you to keep fighting and speaking out?

The feeling of being stripped of my personality, my uniqueness, like Sampson without his hair… I don’t want anyone to ever have to go through that to learn the lesson that I did. I want people to continue to stand up for themselves despite what other people may say because they don’t have similar experiences. Our black ancestors before us did not stand up and fight for us to come in this modern day and age to yield to outdated, colonial rules. So many times people have ridiculed me for my hair, on the street, at work or professional settings, and at school… So many times people have been racist or prejudiced towards me because of the color of my skin or how my hair grows up to the sky. So many times I have been affected because of society’s twisted misconceptions and stereotypes that are casted upon us and eventually accepted. This time, I say no more. As I continue to live my truth, I will prove to myself and everyone else that I am a professional, that I am beautiful, that I am competent of doing anything that I put my mind to. I refuse to let my skin color and hair texture ‘hold me back’ from these opportunities in my life, because they are not an evaluation tool of my professionalism, capabilities or intelligence.

 

 

* What do you hope viewers at home might learn from what you went through and your response?

I hope that viewers at home will see that it is okay to stand up for yourself… I sacrificed all my hair, and for what? I did everything I could to appease the judges, but all in vain. Social media quickly took to Instagram to voice that I was robbed when I was eliminated. You see, we can change ourselves to fit someone else’s mold, but that does not mean that we will be liked or accepted. It’s only wisdom that can now allow me to look back and say that I wished I stood my ground. I would have both my dignity and my hair. I feared that others would judge me and say that I was truly an unprofessional model for walking off the show. But I’ve learnt that the most important opinion is the one you have of yourself… Always stand your ground; do not yield.

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I REFUSE TO LET ANYONE TELL ME HOW TO BE BEAUTIFUL. I am pleased to announce that a 20 minute documentary that I have starred in and directed alongside @trinidadandtobagorocks has been selected to screen at @ttfilmfestival! Hair is more than "just hair" and living in a society that idolizes Eurocentric features and demonizes African features makes it that much harder trying to live my truth in all my melanin glory. Join me as I open up about racist incidents, living my truth, being whitewashed as a cheap reality show stunt, and still overcome it, all the while cutting off that trashy, outdated, straight hair and starting over my natural hair journey AGAIN. I will be counting on YOUR support to help me win the People's Choice Award 🏆🏅. FYI: Research shows there has been a 40% decline in relaxer sales over the past 8 years. It ain't a fad or a style. BIH, IT'S A MOVEMENT. ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽 — — Pre-lime 🍤🍻: Fri Sep 7 @ Drinks Bistro, Woodbrook from 7pm — — Airing dates 🎬: Fri 21 Sept, 5.00pm, The University of the West Indies ** Fri 21 Sept, 6.00pm, MovieTowne POS Screen 8, Q+A ** Mon 24 Sept, 4.00pm, MovieTowne Tobago ** Tue 25 Sept, 6.00pm, MovieTowne San Fernando — — Photo Creds: Model: @gabigabz_ Designer: @benecaribe Photographer: @moderndaycaveman Art Director: @rackedstudios — — #model #international #caribbean #ttfilmfestival #trinidadfilmfestival #film #documentary #naturalhair #natural #melanin #queen #straighthairissotrashy #overit #movement

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* I noticed that you’re working on an upcoming documentary and continuing to use your social media as a way to speak out against what happened. Why is it important for you to continue this mission? What’s your ultimate hope with sharing words of encouragement regarding hair and calling for change?

 

My documentary ‘Black Hair’ speaks about growing up as a predominantly African woman in a whitewashed and Eurocentric Caribbean society. I address racism, hair-shaming, and overcoming adversity by cutting off my hair in this 20-minute film. It has been screened at the Say It Loud Film Festival in Washington DC in July, the Trinidad & Tobago Film Festival in September, The Baltimore International Black Film Festival in Maryland from Oct 2-8, the ArtCity Film Festival in Cameroon in Oct, and Kurlz on Film in Los Angeles in Spring 2019. I’ve also started a GoFundMe to submit my documentary to festivals across the world so that people can hear my story: http://www.bit.ly/blackhairdonate 100% of funds will go towards paying submission fees to enter the film, which is currently estimated at USD$3,100. My message is important because it is not just about hair. My message is letting people know that they should live their lives being comfortable in their own skin, in their own appearance, and that we need to look past colonial remnants in our culture that tell us ‘white is best and only white is best’ If all races, particularly the white race, could come together and agree that we are all equal and treat each other equally, we could live in a much better, more advanced society. We have so much more in common than what ‘separates’ us. The sooner we realize that the sooner we can evolve into a more loving era of humanity.

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If the Caribbean had a flavour it would taste like me 👅😈 — — Model: @gabriellabernard_ Photography: @refiic Designer: @dominichutch — — 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 🍃 — — #fashion #runway #editorial #natural #melanin #beautiful #caribbean #model #internationalmodel #scoutme #fordmodelsscout #wlyg #imgmodelscout #lordeincscouting #jagmodels #makemeamuse #willyscouts #scoutmetier1mm #emgmodels #iamscouted #gilleonsmithcasting #wespeakthisisme #scoutmesilent #models1scout #mc2scouting #elmsquad #be1scoutme #bodylondon #bikini #caribbean — @bellaagency @elitenyc @elite_london @statemgmt @fusionmodelsnyc @suprememgmt @nextmodels @dnamodels @dnkmodels @ethnicitymodels @chocomediamodels @theindustryny @abbeylynnmodels @pridemodelmanagement @megamodelbrasil @gadalmodels @crawfordmodels @megamodelbahia @niiagency @noagency.nyc @managementartists @midlandagency @immmodels @elevenmodelmgmt @newyorkmodels @womenmanagementny @major_scouts @qmodels @mahogany_models @mandpmodels @bma_models @marqueemodels @leo.alderman @stettsmodelmgmt @clavonmodels @shlegel_daria @mmgtalent @theindustryla @lookmodels_germany

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* What other things do you have planned in the wake of this? Are you still modeling? Do you still want to continue talking about this in the future? What are your goals?

I want to continue spreading my message of self-love and positivity. I am still modeling and ultimately I would be elated to become an internationally signed model and walk for Victoria’s Secret. However, I haven’t put all my eggs in one basket and I am also focusing on my background in Marketing and Events Management. I definitely want to continue being an activist for change and I am currently involved in community development programmes in Trinidad & Tobago. I plan to use my influence and education to eventually become a person with political power in the future, such as the Prime Minister of Trinidad & Tobago. We can do a lot to get our economy back on its feet with people who think as progressively as I do, and want to see an actual improvement of the nation. Especially in the wake of the dying oil industry, there are several things that we can do. We can invest in sustainable energy for a greener and cleaner future, especially having the luxury of living on an island that sees an abundance of sun, wind and natural waves for the majority of the year. We can also implement a refugee programme for the Venezuelans coming across to the country whereby they can find shelter, work and make a contribution to our society. Food manufacturing is an industry that can create even more jobs for our citizens and increase our food security. We can also look into reforming the education system by exposing students to new career paths and allowing them to pursue studies tailored to thriving and upcoming industries where there is a huge demand. Construction, mechanics, engineering, plumbing, and other vocational/technical education should be at the forefront as opposed to making people go into debt for an education that they may not be able to use in the future. My ultimate goal is to impact positive change on the world, and I’ve started that by living the best life I can every single day. Some days are good, some days are bad, but I am grateful for every moment of my experience so that I can share it with others and hopefully be a guide to them in their own way.

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There's nothing more exhilarating than living your most authentic life. BE WHO U WANNA BE. BE WHO U ARE. Listen I'm just so glad I have a whole fro again. The journey continues…💫💫💫 // Last night I had such a beautifully overwhelming response at the premiere of my film Black Hair. It's even been picked up in Baltimore, Maryland and Cameroon, Africa! Remember to go catch it if you can, and vote for BLACK HAIR as the People's Choice Award, and help me go to Baltimore! 🙌🏽🙏🏽 @trinidadandtobagorocks @ttfilmfestival — — Airing dates 🎬: Mon 24 Sept, 4.00pm, MovieTowne Tobago 🖤 Tue 25 Sept, 6.00pm, MovieTowne San Fernando — — Photo Creds: Model: @gabigabz_ Photographer: @shannonbrittophotography — — #model #international #caribbean #ttfilmfestival #trinidadfilmfestival #film #documentary #naturalhair #natural #melanin #queen #straighthairissotrashy #overit #movement #beautiful #fun #editorial #blackandwhite #photography #afro #naturalista #rain #scoutme

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My message is important because it is not just about hair. My message is letting people know that they should live their lives being comfortable in their own skin

LETS TALK ABOUT BODIES

By Posted on 0 9 m read 292 views

 

Watagwan my nappyboo.

I am sharing the story of my colleague, smart and very brave and beautiful, former Miss Arizona USA Jordan Wessel. She champions the voices of so many young women in entertainment, not just in the states but all over the world. I think its time to ask myself too,

Who made up the rules ??

Does it serve me?

What about my own rules?

 

 

What it took to be “perfect”

 

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What it took to be “perfect”

Every year I, like many of you, write down resolutions. The No. 1 thing on my list in 2018 is to get healthy both mentallyand physically.

I realize mental health isn’t something most people like to discuss, especially with strangers on the internet. But hey, I created this blog so I can be real with you, so no topic is off limits. Our society views “healthy” as someone with a perfect body. But I think it’s much more than that. In order to be “healthy” you need to balance physical health with emotional and spiritual health. Many of us set goals so we can look a certain way, but why don’t we set goals to feel a certain way?

2013 was one of the best years of my life but came with an overwhelming amount of consequences that I’m still suffering from. I was struggling with severe stomach issues for 2 years, and felt I had no control over my life. I was a freshman in college, but I spent more time at the Mayo Clinic and at my parents house than I did at school. The stomach pain was so severe I struggled getting out of bed, I barely socialized with friends, and was so desperate to just feel “normal” again. After countless medical tests, scans, and misdiagnoses’ I attempted to take my health into my own hands. I found a trainer who struggled with Crohn’s Disease (similar to what I have), yet seemed to function completely normal. I confided in him, and he swore the more I exercised the stronger my body would become and the more I could manage my symptoms. Over time the gym became my sanctuary. I looked forward to sweating everyday and I began feeling significantly better. Given, my diet was extremely limited but for the first time in my life I was seeing physical results in the gym. I was surrounded by fitness competitors, and I admired their dedication to the sport and their insanely ripped bodies. At that time, these individuals were my definition of “healthy” (lol). After 3 months at this gym, I decided to prepare for a bikini competition. I was more determined than ever and became extremely strict with my regimine. I exercised 7 days a week, averaging around 3 hours at the gym, and pushed myself until I was shaking and light headed. All I thought about was the gym, and I fell in love with the process of watching my body transform. The endorphins gave me a natural high, and I thought I could keep-up with that lifestyle forever.

Although I was over-excerising, my diet was the most damaging part of my training. Before the fitness competition, my diet consisted of:

  • 1 Rice cake with a cup of egg whites in the morning
  • 4oz tilapia and asparagus for lunch with 1 rice cake
  • 4oz tilapia and asparagus for dinner

 

As I look back on that time, I can’t believe I ate the way I did. I was burning hundreds and hundreds of calories every day at the gym, but wasn’t eating nearly enough to keep my body stable. To top it off, I was taking fat burners, which are basically an unnatural amount of caffeine in pill-form, so your body is constantly burning even when you’re not at the gym. I felt drained, but I also felt sexier than ever before because of the attention I was recieving. People were constantly reaching out asking for tips so they could look like me, and be “successful” like I was.

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I lost over 40 pounds in 3 months. When I stepped on stage at my fitness competition I was under 100 pounds. For reference, I’m 5’10, so I should never be under 100 pounds. I was frail and weirdly proud of it. I placed 5th overall, and was approached by a judge afterwards who told me I should be walking in the Victorias Secret Fashion Show, which I took as a huge compliment.

My hard work was paying off and my wildest dreams were coming true. I was signed by a modeling agency and I won Miss Arizona USA 2014. From the outside, people thought I had it all, mainly because of my body. Little did anyone know, I was falling apart mentally. I began to equate my weight with my self worth; the thinner I was, the more valuable.

I avoided going out or spending time with friends because I didn’t want to be tempted to eat or drink something that would compromise my figure. All I thought about was calories and training. When I attempted to introduce “normal” foods back into my diet I would get sick. Even attempting to eat turkey, chicken, or protein powder was a struggle. My body couldn’t tolerate or digest anything and I started gaining weight back. I remember stepping on the scale at 107, and feeling disgusted with myself. I had torn both labarums in my hips while training, which suddenly made it hard for me to walk and I definitely couldn’t run. Cardio became painful but I kept doing it because I figured it would keep me small. At this point the negative self talk was at an all time high, I constantly thought to myself, “If I gain any more weight, I’m going to lose everything.” I trained harder. I went back to my previous diet. I took fat burners, but nothing worked. My stomach pain increased daily and no matter how hard I trained, the scale was only going up.

My new trainer, Scott (if you live in AZ I highly recommend him), instantly realized all I cared about was the number on the scale. Since I was preparing for Miss USA, it would have been easy for him to push me to exhaustion and give me tricks to fool my body for a few more months. But he didn’t, he encouraged me to strengthen my mental health, and stop pushing myself so hard in the gym. He was the first fitness professional to educate me on the importance of self love and confidence. Looking back, I wish I would’ve implemented his advice to repair my metabolism and focus on my mental and emotional health more than physical. I was so consumed with doing whatever it took to be a size “0” before Miss USA, that I couldn’t focus on anything else. I didn’t lose the weight, and I competed at a size 4. I was considered one of the “bigger” girls at the competition.

My physical and mental health went out the window after Miss USA. The gym was no longer my sanctuary, it was now a means for punishing myself. If I went out with friends, had a drink, or ate something I “shouldn’t”, I felt guilty and spent hours trying to work it off. It was such an unhealthy cycle and I was trapped.

All of this was happening while my life looked perfect on the outside. Of course no one shows their struggles on social media, so instead of turning to get help I kept up a viscid and hoped it would get easier. Don’t get me wrong, I had so many positive things happening in my life and I am so thankful for my reign. However, if I could go back there’s a lot I would change, beginning with telling myself to chill the F out. When I passed-on my crown, I essentially gave up pushing myself in the gym. It was frustrating not to see results, so I avoided it all-together. When I turned 21 I let go of my routine and decided I was just going to have fun. I surrounded myself with friends, went out to clubs every weekend, traveled all over the country, and had the time of my life. But my new routine of not caring wasn’t working either. I went from one extreme to the other and my body broke down.

To this day, I’m still trying to repair my metabolism. Because of my torn labarums, I will need double hip surgery in the near future. I torchered my body because I thought the smaller I was the happier and more successful I would be. Let me tell you something, even when I was at my smallest, I still wasn’t happy with myself.

In 2015 and 2016, I wrote “get healthier” as my new years resolutions. But as each year passed, I was frustrated because my body didn’t have that “unbelievable change”. My only goal was to get that “perfect” body back.

In 2017 I made the resolution to do everything I could to fall in love with myself. Sounds weird I know, but I realized I would never be perfect so I was setting myself up for failure. I needed to learn to love myself in every phase of my health journey in order to be the best ME I could be. I transformed dramatically in 2017, because I began practicing self-love every day. I was proud of myself for my growth, and I began exercising again because I loved my body, not because I hated it. I journaled, I cut out negative people in my life, I limited social media, and I believed in myself.

I still battle with insecurity at times, but I’ve never felt mentally, emotionally, or spiritually healthier in my life. This shift changed everything. My relationship with myself and with others has improved dramatically and I no longer feel like I need to hide who I am or how far I’ve come.

Being vulnerable is scary, but I share my health journey with you because I know I’m not alone. I believe the majority of women reading this post will be able to relate to me in some way. But most importantly, I want this post to show you that I’m not even close to perfect. I don’t want to be another girl on your instagram feed that makes you feel less than. I’ve said this before, but social media isn’t reality. No one shares their struggles, failures, and insecurities online. It’s easy to get lost in comparison when looking at someone else’s “highlight reel” but the truth is that NO ONE is perfect.

We’re all beautifully and wonderfully made and it’s the year that we begin celebrating that. I want you to join me and become healthier mentally and physically in 2018. Become the best YOU possible, but don’t sacrifice your health to obtain an unrealistic standard of beauty. Learn to appreciate and love the skin you’re in, and watch your entire life transform.

 

XO

JWESS

 

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These conversations are already being had. And its time for all of  us muse about a new pledge. One that will see each and everyone of us wholesome and completely loving ourselves, and thus being able to love another as such regardless of the way our physical bodies look. To treat our physical with utmost respect, a reflection of  mentally balance state of mind. In which ones perception of worth is not derived externally but internally and is not phased by opinions of mentally and emotionally unstable people, nor societies now matter how forceful an impact.

Jordan Wessels’s bravery to share her story on her journey has encouraged me to be more brazen about my own journey too. Yes! Even more brazen that I already am now lol. Because I think theres a lot of trauma release that needs to happen across our human civilization. And I want to start with mine.

More career gist to come soon. What do you think of her story? Feel free to share your below too. This is a safe space and all negativity and spam comment swill be deleted.

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#30DAYSININDIA: How I became a Yoga Teacher +Vlog Highlights

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Wagwan my boo!

Is another day in Nappyese world! Been back from India and we popping! Grab a snack and a drink! Iz about to be a looooong post!

How have you been? I wanna hear from you, so shout me out in the comments!

India was crrraaaaaaazzzzyyyyyyyyy yall!!!!! I mean! Words alone can not fully describe the intense life rounded experiences that my trip to India was.

NAPPY TRAVEL: 30 DAYS IN INDIA

Just like my soul knew it would be! Thank heavens I decided to digitalize my experience! And even with that there were some moments that were just too real to be in dual dimension! Like our infamous monkey fight over bananas, I’ve been singing about on my instagram.

LAKSHMAN JHULA BRIDGE

Yall!!!! This is video content gist I tell you!!!

Scroll  to the bottom of this post to watch my 30 DAYS IN INDIA HIGHLIGHTS

30 DAYS IN INDIA VLOG SERIES

Scroll  to the bottom of this post to watch my 30 DAYS IN INDIA HIGHLIGHTS

And I thank God for enormous blessings!! Like my husbae coming all the way to meet me and being part of my unique experience. This whole vlog series that’s about to mightily tease your senses would never wouldn’t have fully manifested without him.

 

India was all sorts of intense! I’m sure you’ve heard this many a times. And I’m going to sound the gong again cos its sooooo true!

The colors, the smells, the people, their customs and traditions. I can’t count the no of times I was bombarded by Indian families for selfies. Bombarded indeed! I even ended up loosing my favorite pair of ray ban sun glasses and a kaftan I had mission all the way to a market to get in all the confusion. Many times when a tribe of Indian family would swarm I would feel like I was adopted hahah and it was a family photo.

Some are polite enough to ask, some sieze the oppotruntiy to invade your space. If you take one selfie with an Indian, best belive you’re taking 10 more in the same breath.

My favorite place to be in out of all the places was Fatehpur Sikri, because there was space!!! Oh Lord, sweet space. Even though India is such a vast country, the people tend to hurdle together. Law and order is a myth and traffic is madness.

From Cows to Mules, Horses, monkey, motorcycles on the bridges; Lakshman Jula(Monkey robbers here) and Ram Jhula to cray tuk tuk drivers in New Delhi, it was Chaos!

 

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Up next for favorites was the Golden temple. The beautiful gold coated building in Agra where the Indians come to pray. It is perhaps the equivalent to a pilgrimage in Mecca. Out of all the places we visited, this was the one places were we felt the most at peace. The energy here was one of love and worship and peace. Sweet peace. We could have stayed here for days…

It was amazing learning yoga in the beautiful tourist haven that is the city of Rishikesh! And I am looking forward to sharing that 30 days experience in my #nappytravel vlog series. One of the things I learnt while studying yoga is the importance of self study as a yogi. This is something I’ve always been particularly good at and needless to say I achieved all that I set out to when I asked myself WHY I AM GOING TO INDIA

It was an intense journey to re-discovery back to self and I’m really giving you a large chunk of my heart by taking you along with me, each day I was there, learning and re-discovering my inner Ese. This is why I have decided to create a new special section of my blog to coincide with my blog and brands 2nd year anniversary!! (Whoop!) for all you beautiful nappyboos who will continue to come on my journey with me. I am titling it  NAPPY-DIARIES! And this is where I will release all of the 30days of my spiritual discovery journey in India and well as other heart thumping topics we will continue to discuss about.

 

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It’s funny because when this idea came to me I remebred the times in secondary (high) school when my  school-mates would steal my dairy and journals and tell each other about what I had written. It used to hurt quite a lot then, but alas here we are again 🙂

So head over to my Nappy-diaries and save yourself a spot! The first video of the #nappytravel series will release soon!

To conclude India was everything and more I thought it would be. More because I was plenty dis-illusioned of many things I had thought about the place. Yes, I’m blaming bollywood lol. So differ if you may of you’re an Indian nappy boo and you don’t agree with some things below, but let’s agree to disagree because these are my personal real life experiences.I always form my conclusions about a place by the characters of it’s people. And here are

5 THINGS I LEARNT ABOUT INDIA AFTER VISITING.

1.Indians don’t really dance;

At least not like how bollywood makes it seem. You know.. like after every emotional feasible event. Which I won’t lie was quite disspointing for me. There were no dance houses in Rishikesh, in Amristar, Agra and even in Delhi, finding one felt like a mission. Every time we asked locals about dancing we got something like; This is a holy city so no dancing. What…??

The one time we had a chance in Rishikesh on one of my yoga mates birthday, they turned the music off a 10 o’clock and make stern faces that read get out of our restaurant. The only time I saw real dancing was at a wedding that happening right beside my yoga school. I put two and two together, cos if bollywood isn’t real and there is an abundance of dancing in it at all times……… My awakening had started 🙁

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2. Most Indians are vegeterians but they also eat meat.

Don’t beleive the myth that Rishikesh is a Holy City where meat is not eaten because they are. It took my bae only 2 days of arriving to get approached by the locals asking if he wanted to eat meat at a special price of course. We had Chicken for dinner on couple occasions. All I could think was of the poor unassuming tourists who actually believe the stories they are fed. If that was a lie imagine the web of other lies are being spun. To be honest I actually was enjoying my time away from meat after struggling past the first 2 weeks and getting used to it until my bae came and ruined that lol.. (jokes)

3. Indians are kind and welcoming people

Even with the blatant corruption that seems to be plaguing the Indian society, and I can speak about it because my country Nigeria has the same disease. As most societies do to a certain degree, but when it has seeped so deeply engrained into the culture its a wonder and mighty relief when you find good people! They were more than a few incidents where we were ripped off on our trip, (and you must have heard this) but for every horrible person and encounter, we met good people that helped our heart feel a little better. For example we took the train and ended thinking a family had taken our seats on the train but we had been sold a train ticket for the day before instead for the day we needed (even after we ran around town and waited many hours to get these), so we had no seats. The station manger didn’t care to help our plight, but the Sikh family were kind enough to take us in, shared their food, stories and families with us, taught us their language, even gave us orange turbans as gifts after teaching us how to tie it. <Sniff> that was so beautiful, I’m still emotional even writing about it. Even with all of the stress that surrounded us, moments like these made it entirely worthwhile! And I have plenty more stories like these but I will save them for my vlogs!

 

4. Most Indians don’t practise Yoga

First of all I was nicely surprised to find out Yoga was a practice that generated from the Indians. I thought it was just another western form of exercise until I decided to dive deeper into it.

Then I finally travelled all the way to India to find that it is not generally practiced by most Indians. Another surprise! Even as beautiful and holistic the practice is?  Even at my school in my yoga class there were only three Indians in the whole course of about 13 people and one left. I don’t know what to make of this but I bless the ancient Vedics’ for discovering this amazing practice and everyone else who had a hand in trinkling down the wisdom and information into this time.

5. Colorism and Sexism is real AF!

I’ll do us both a favor and save  some horror stories for the vlogs. Because I don’t think just writing here can fully express my true feelings as a young African Nigerian woman traveling all alone in Asia my herself, for the times when bae hadn’t arrived.

And one more point just for the heeck of it:

6. The colors are surreal!

I don’t think I’ve ever seen as much glorious color blocking as I did in India. You can probably tell from my burst bright orange dress in the pictures above. The colors of India is one of the main thing that attracted be to it and I was not disappointed in this regard. I was lucky enough to have meet a beloved kind hearted woman named Bridget Ganguly who took me shopping for Sari tops and helped me hemm my Saris I had bought in Haridwar. And even showed me how to tie it!

 

All in all India is a mind blowing place! I am more than grateful for the grace to have lived and fulfilled my dreams of India beyond my wildest expectations!

Would I go back?? I tell everyone in 10 years, a private jet and red carpet. And I kinda mean it! …. I think

So here is the final   starting round up of my #30daysinIndia travel series. Subscribe to my Youtube Channel and don’t miss out of the rest of the travel vlog series! Also plenty more gist coming in my nappy diaries!

 

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WHY I AM GOING TO INDIA -An African girl confession

First Trip to Asia: What’s in my box

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Wagwan my Napyboo,

Thanks for stopping by again on the blog. Finally ASIA!!!!! I can’t tell you how super freaking stinking excited I am to be finally going to DUM DUM DUM *drumroll* IIIIINNNNDDDDIIIAAA. And it’s not just because Manushi Chinchillar is the current miss world haha.

Anyone who truly truly know me can attest to my love of Bollywood Sagas. I mean if you’ve followed me from my early days of starting my youtube channel you’d remember where I touched on my healthy obsession for Top International and Bollywood actress Deepeka Padukone and Priyanka Chopra in my Channel Trailer Video. Yes, I grew up watching Bollywood Love stories, but my reasons for finally visiting India goes beyond my dreams of dancing and singing on one of those movie sets (far fetched but real AF!) All my soon to be Indian friends, if you have connects hook a sister up please no jokes.

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WHAT’S IN MY BOX?

FIRST TIME IN INDIA

 

 

 

They say curiosity killed the cat. Loolzz, yet here you are tryna to stick your nose in my box, and I don’t mind at all!

I spent the past couple weeks searching for authentic experiences from people who have experienced the great country of India and I came across the gorgeous hippie-in-heels. before we proceed let me clear the air. I am from Lagos Nigeria, more precisely brought up in Ikorodu

*pause*

Think about my last statement. If nothing still clicks, let me just state it; India’s got nofin on me. My dear if you can survive in Lagos you can survive anywhere abeg. My Lasgidi people please eigtighi in the comments if you agree with me. The average Nigerian has been through the most and we survive. I know I can handle India. Now if I only I could escape the dreaded ‘Delhi Belle’ I can smile triumphantly through my #30daysinIndia.

 

#NAPPYTRAVEL FIRST TRIP TO INDIA WHATS IN MY BOX

 

Most of the stuff I read say the real dread is the water. I have to swear by bottle water for these 30days, luckily buying water has never been my chai latte 🙁  Lets hope I don’t come back parched. I guess this is a good time to say this trip is on a budget. The bravery I had alone to book my flight ehn?! But I know my experiences will be worth much more..

Updates skin care routine coming soon!

Lavender Essential Oil for concentration and Focus

LemonGrass Essential Oil to repel Bug and Mosquito bites

Ecalyptus and Frankinscence to ward off fever

 

I guess this is also a good time to add I won't have health insurance. Lord have mercy!

Healing Stones and Shea Moisture Shampoo and Conditioner Travel sizes!

This is the first time I have incorporated healing stones into meditation. These are special stones relatable to Capricorn Sun Sign. Black Opal and Galena. I probably know as much as you do when it comes to astrology or maybe not. As an Earth sign, I want to feel more connected to my elements and this is my first step.

I wonder whats more shocking? That I’m going to India or that I’m actually taking food provisions with. Again, totally a Nigerian thing. At least for folk like us who knows how rough it is to live far away from home in “boarding school”

How I see, this is just another extension of those days going away from home to study. Life studies continues. If you really think about it, you’d see how this is really a smart move. Especially if you’re on a budget. Plus I’ve been a carnivore all my life, my whole perception of life is about to change quite drastically in more ways than one. Best to have things I like: FOOOOOODDDDD

 

I’d say I’m preety prepared for this trip. What do you think?

Rupert Jr. my travelling bear is also super excited to being this new journey! Tell you nieces and nephews to follow his adventures on Facebook! He aims to inspire little brave hearts all over to believe; It doesn’t matter where you are from, you can choose where you want to go. Follow @RupertTheTravellingbear on Instagram

 

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Fashion Nova: How to wear summer outfits in Fall (Style on a budget)

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Watagwan Nappyboo,

I hope your thanksgiving weekend was lit! and you’re recovering nicely from the food.

Welcome to my first style post!!  You must have caught a glimpse of Who What Wear in my first style Vlog. Where I introduced my Nappy Style with my SUMMER 2017 STYLE HAUL  featuring Fashion Nova X Mystique Boutique NYC.

If you didn’t catch it, you’ve been living under a rock! Baby win with us!! Watch the video below

 

How I Transitioned my Summer Style Pieces  into Fall

Living in NYC for me right now is living on a budget. How expensive this city is not a myth!! And style is a luxury I can’t afford to compromise on. I love to look well put together (most days lol) And I keep my style to my own aesthetics. Meaning I do what what works for me. 

Y’all know I’ve been buying Fashion Nova since forever!  Way before Bodak Yellow and Team Cardi B was even a thing. Yup! Not only are their items built to hug womanly curves, they are also quite affordable ( if you know when to shop). I live for Fashion Nova discount codes. I shared all the cute pieces I rocked all summer in the video above so don’t forget to watch it! Now here’s how I transition some of these pieces into my fall style.

LAYER LAYER LAYER! Nothing like a cold city to teach you how to layer up.

In these looks I rock my summer dresses over a layer of a Thermal Underwear, Thights and Turtle neck sweaters. Its a classic way to keep all of my skin protected and look chique rocking my summer pieces. 

 

 

 

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That’s it for today’s nappy style post. I hope you enjoyed the images, feel free ask any questions. What are your tips for saving cost on clothes while transitioning from a summer to fall/winter wardrobe? Please share with me in the comment section below. 

 Caaassh u later!

 

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PEARL LOOK NIGERIA 5TH EDITION COMING SOON

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Laaadies (and gents)!!

Do you dream of walking runways, appearing on TV and  in glossy magazine prints? Here’s a chance to delve into the world of fashion and modelling. 

 

      Let’s talk about PEARL LOOK NIGERIA. Pearl Looking Nigeria is a prestigious Beauty, Talent and Model scout competition that launched in 2013. Many of you may know it is this modelling competition that launched my career in modelling a few years ago.

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